Saturday, December 31, 2016

Holy Heck Guys... Happy New Years!

Does anyone else feel like they blinked and this year was almost over...

I mean it's been a CRAZY year for me. But it has also flown by. 

It seems like just yesterday we were ringing in 2016 and now tomorrow it will be 2017! And while there have been good things that happened this year, 2016 has been particularly difficult and I don't think i'm the only one who is glad to see it go! So here's a recap of 2016, and a few things I'm really looking forward to in 2017!

 This year we moved back to our hometown, and into my in-laws house (that they had moved out of two years ago to take care of my mother in law's parents)

Ridge got a new job driving locally!!!

I graduated from Law School (finally college is over!) and my little sis graduate from High School! And my best friend graduated from Lander! Class of 2016 Represent!

I took (and passed) the South Carolina Bar.

We lost Ridge's grandfather in August, he was such a big part of our lives and things aren't the same here without him.

One of my Best Friends got Married!

I was sworn in to the Bar in November.

We adopted two dogs :)

Ridge turned 26, I turned 25.

We bought a truck... because Ridge was T-boned on the first day of the bar exam, flipped three times, and it totalled his S-10.

And most importantly he walked away from the accident with a few bruises but completely fine.

Getting a job! and getting to start practicing law.

Starting to Pay off my student loans. (yes i'm looking forward to this)

Start saving to buy a house and me a new car.

I'll be an Aunt in July (my baby sister is having a baby)!

Losing weight (I'm ten lbs down, but i've got a LONG way to go)

Our sweet puppies Dixie and Aspen turning One in February and July respectively.

There are probably more things in 2017 I'm looking forward too, but I can't think of any at the moment!

Hope your 2016 was good, and if not I hope your 2017 is better!

Love you all!

Happy New Year!

Friday, September 02, 2016

Get Fit or Die Trying... the reboot...

(Disclaimer... if you don't want to see a picture of me in a sports bra and leggings maybe don't scroll all the way to the bottom of this post! And if you do scroll, and have something mean to say about how I look, just know I know i'm overweight... that's the WHOLE POINT OF THIS POST! So all you're gonna do is make me cry and that's not nice)

Hey Y'all! It's been a minute since I've posted anything here. 
There are several reasons, but the biggest one being that between studying for the bar, and taking care of our now seven month old puptato I'm at a loss for time to do much else. But the Bar is behind me now, results won't be released until October, and the job search is in full swing so I have a little bit more time to spend with my dear sweet blog loves!

I hit something I never thought I'd see recently, and it has opened my eyes that i've backslid further than i realized in the past three years... the other day i stepped on the scale and I topped 260. Which is the heaviest I've ever been, for sure. 

Something's got to give, and it's got to be me.

If you're bored with my bitching about my weight feel free to ignore these posts, but if you're interested in being my accountability buddy ;) feel free to comment/contact me. We can be friends on this journey and I'd love the company. I'll be back each week with an update!

So Here Goes...

Starting Stats : September 1, 2016

Weight: 260 lbs
Goal Weight: 180 lbs
Total to lose: 80 lbs

And much to my chagrin... a nice set of before pictures for reference :/ No i'm not pregnant, i just have the unfortunate flaw of carrying the majority of my extra weight in my stomach.

Tuesday, May 10, 2016

You can call me J.D...

may or may not be singing the title to this post to the tune of Royals by Lorde :)

Y'all! It finally happened.

I finally did it!


Friday May 6, 2016 was a good GREAT day!

There will be more pictures to follow... because well my mom is my mom and we have a graduation picture date for my sister and I on Sunday :)

Friday, February 26, 2016

48 About Me... Take 3

So, I've done this exact same post twice before (If you feel the need... go back and read those other two posts here and here) ... I love the idea of having something that has the same questions on it and looking at how my answers change over time. So here we are February 26, 2016... Take three, here we go!

1. What time did you get out of bed this morning?
5:00 am
2. How do you like your steak?
medium rare... It's wonderful!
3. What was the last film you saw at the cinema?
Star Wars: The Force Awakens
4. What is your favorite TV show?
I have bit of a three way tie, Grey's Anatomy, The Bachelor, and Crossing Lines (it's on Netflix, you should TOTALLY check it out)
5. If you could live anywhere in the world, where would it be?
Probably either Texas or France (I know, totally different places).
6. What did you have for breakfast?
Smoothie... complete with Almond Milk... yummy (not)
7. What is your favorite food?
8. Foods you dislike?
Onions, Spicy food, and twinkies
9. Favorite place to eat?
Mig's Pizza Palace (if you're not from where I'm from you don't know what that is)
10. Favorite dressing?
Ginger (like the kind you get at a Hibachi Restaurant)
11. What kind of vehicle do you drive?
Toyota Corolla
12. What are your favorite clothes?
Leggings! Hands down leggings.
13. Where would you visit if you could?
England, Scotland, Ireland, France
14. Cup 1/2 empty or 1/2 full? 
at the moment 1/2 empty. It's been a rough few weeks.
15. Where do you want to retire?
retire??? with my student loans? Ha.
16. Favorite time of day?
17. Where were you born?
Langley Air Force Base, Virginia.
18. What is your favorite sport to watch?
Soccer, Football, and Figure Skatin
19. What is your favorite fragrance?
I don't have one.
20. What is your favorite face cream?
I don't use one.
21. Favorite baby/kids products? 
none... don't have any of those either
22. People watcher?
23. Are you a morning or a night person?
Morning all the way
24. Do you have any pets?
One Cat, my sweet Diva
25.Any new and exciting news you'd like to share?
I graduate from law school in May... that's pretty exciting. Additionally I was diagnosed with PCOS earlier this month... which is news to yall... I'll be blogging about that more later :(
 26. What did you want to be when you were little?
A mom, more than anything, and above everything else.
27. What is your favorite memory?
Spending time with my Papa. Just every minute of that.
28. Are you a cat or a dog person?
29. Are you married?
30. Always wear your seat belt?
of course
31. Been in a car accident?
Twice while driving, minor accidents, but several where I was the passenger, one major that could have been deadly had I been sitting on the passenger side of the car.
32. Any pet peeves?
People who act like they know what's going on with you.
33. Favorite pizza toppings?
Can't have pizza any more... stupid PCOS taking my dairy and gluten from me.
34. Favorite flower?
Sunflowers, Wild Flowers, and Roses... Orchids get an honorable mention
35. Favorite ice cream?
 Can't have ice cream. So no favorites
36. Favorite fast food restaurant?
Chic-Fil-A, not that I can eat there anymore (see numbers 25 and 33)
37. How many times did you fail your driver's test? 
38. From whom did you get your last email?
School... they're the only ones I ever get emails from.
39. Which store would you choose to max out your credit card?
40. Do anything spontaneous lately?
Not really, I considered spontaneously cutting my hair and dying it blonde... we will see if that actually happens!
41. Like your job?
Love it, i'll miss it like crazy come graduation!
42. Broccoli?
Love it! Especially since it's a huge part of my new eating lifestyle!
43. What was your favorite vacation?
I'd have to say my honeymoon, or the trip my husband and I took to Texas last March. Both were wonderful.
44. Last person you went out to dinner with?
My Daddy and my Sister
45. What are you listening to right now?
A Lecture... I may or may not be working on this in class ;) i know shame on me... cut me some slack I'm a last semester 3L!
46. What is your favorite color?
Black, Mint, Teal, and Light Pink
47. How many tattoos do you have?
still just the one
48. Coffee drinker?
Used to be, but I don't like it black so I only rarely consume it these days.
Seems like 20 year old me was so long ago... 24 year old me doesn't quite remember her... I think I miss her a bit!

Love Always, xoxo

Monday, January 25, 2016

FOMO... oh NO!

Life is something isn't it...
There are a million things going on in our lives every day and only 24 hours in which to get them done. School, work, family, and socializing are all priorities of mine and that can result in some real problems... because I, like most people, suffer from something called Fear of Missing Out... or FOMO.

and let me tell you FOMO is a MOFO...

It makes you want to be in all the places at once... heck I can think of more than one time that FOMO has resulted in my way over extending myself...

Like that time I went to not one, but TWO weddings in the same day... or how about that time I spent a whole weekend running back and forth from Laurens to Columbia (three times... which by the way is almost 300 miles and a full tank of gas) to attend two different football games, a birthday party, a cocktail hour, and a bridal shower... or my personal favorite the time I called in sick to work, so that I wouldn't miss out on going to my sororities philanthropy event Junior year of college, but fell asleep on my couch and missed the event any way because I'd been up for almost 48 hours straight!

I got a FOMO problem y'all! I'm working on that I promise!

In the past three years (clears throat and coughs a cough that sounds suspiciously like *law school*) there have been way too many times that I've felt like I was missing out on something... everything. I have a couple things that I use to help me keep up with whats going on in my life, and my world.

The first thing, of course is my trusty day planner. I write the important things down in there so that I don't forget them. I also use my schools TWEN page to keep up with Women in Law events, for work deadlines I use the calendar on my computer, and for Law School events, and Bar Events we use email and Eventbrite to keep us up to date with what is going on.

If you don't know what Eventbrite is... well you should because you're missing out big time! It's an online ticketing platform that allows you to purchase tickets to events... well it allows me to purchase tickets for events, it could also allow you to sell tickets for an event :) It is super user friendly, and allows you to purchase tickets at the click of a mouse... it also reminds me of when events are... which I find highly useful! My school uses Eventbrite to handle RSVP's for free lunch events, IT seminars, and even the 3L bar prep seminars... in addition our Student Bar Association uses Eventbrite to sell tickets to Monsters Ball, the Annual Band Party, and Barristers Ball (aka Law School Prom). It's an excellent service and I highly recommend using it to help fight the FOMO!

SO I know FOMO... how about y'all???

Tell me about it stud...

Crap Grease moment... well just tell me about it!

Here's to kicking FOMO in the you know what!


Monday, January 18, 2016

10 Things I've Learned From Being a Trucker's Wife...


This life ain't for the faint of heart... Not even one little bit...
These past few months of our marriage have been certainly trying and while we have made it through, pretty well I think, there have been some major adjustments and some lessons learned.
Here are ten of those lessons.

1. There Are No Guarantee's {aka don't make dinner plans}
There are going to be times when he say's he's coming home, and you'll think YES! and decide that a date is in order because you've missed him so much over these past few weeks. But the truth is he never know's when he's coming home, and therefore it isn't possible to plan to go out. It could be 5:00pm when he gets home, or it could be 2:00 am and you might not know until right before he gets home that he's coming. I planned out my husbands birthday to a T, had everything perfect and then he got stuck in Virginia... it's our life, it happens and it sucks. But it's life.

2. You Pick Your battles... {aka unless it's actually worth fighting about, don't.}
When you see someone every day, sleep beside them every single night, and the longest you ever say goodbye for is 8 hours so you can work, picking your battles may not seem so essential. You can fight over the petty things, you shouldn't but you could. It's easy to waste your words when you have infinite time together. When you only see one another once every few weeks you start to learn what is important and what isn't. Those dirty socks on the bathroom counter, his towel on the floor, his stinky shoes or the fact that he hasn't taken out the trash are just some of the many things that just aren't worth wasting the precious few days you get together on.  In fact you will probably find that there are very few things worth fighting over now. I can only thing of one fight we've had since he went OTR that I don't regret... and it was about our families, something that sadly is a battle worth fighting. There is ALMOST NOTHING that is worth fighting about anymore, and we're both happier for it.

3. Skype is NO Substitute for a Goodnight Kiss {and you answer your phone when it rings, no matter what.}
Before R went OTR, if he called me in the middle of the day while I was in class I'd let it go to voicemail, I slept with my phone on silent at night, and I didn't worry if I missed a call and he didn't answer when i called back. Not anymore, if he calls while I'm in class, and i'm able I leave, if he calls at night I wake up, and if i can't get him on the phone after he called me, i worry. Because the fact of the matter is i never know when I'm going to get to talk to him, we live on his time schedule now, not mine. If he's three hours behind us and calls me before he goes to bed, i answer that call at 1 am, like wise if I get up at 5 am, i don't call him. I don't want to wake him up, especially since he may have just gone to bed.  The hardest part is not being able to kiss him good night each night. I miss that, saying good night over the phone or skype isn't  even close to being the same thing.

4. Your Family Becomes More Important Than Ever
With R gone, spending time with my family, and with his, has become even more important to me. The thing that's been hardest for me to learn is that I'm not the only one who misses him when he's gone. His parent's and grandparent's, as well as his little brother all miss him just as much as I do. So when I get a chance i go home and spend the weekend with them, because if he was home that is what we would be doing together. It's just as important for me to spend quality time with my family, going to High School Football games with my dad and sister or going to visit my mom and step dad really help take my mind off of how much I miss my husband. Family is important, especially when you're spouse is somewhere across the country, they're important to get you through this and you're important to get them through this too. Don't forget that, and don't try and go it alone.

5. People Aren't Going to Understand (aka the "Why Don't you... {insert activity here}" Phenomena.)
My personal favorites are "Why don't the two of you have kids?" and "Why didn't R come with you?" The answer to both of those questions is simple. My husband drives a tractor trailer... I see him once a month, if that. We don't have kids because we don't have time to try to have kids, and if we did have kids he wouldn't be around to raise them... because he's never home. The second question is even more annoying because it comes from people who KNOW what my husband does for a living... and who should understand that there isn't a poof button that makes R magically appear.

6. When He is Home You Won't Make Plans... you just won't.
The only thing worse than having your spouse gone 90% of the time is spending the entire 10% of his time home out with friends, or home visiting family, or even worse, in the car getting to those places. This is ridiculous to expect that when he's home for two days, that we are going to spend all of those two days out of town visiting relatives. It's absurd!

7. Waking Up Alone is the Second Worst Feeling in the World {aka In reality there is one thing that feels worse than waking up alone.}
Don't get me wrong, waking up in our king size bed by myself every morning is a pretty lonely feeling, but I've learned that there are worse feelings in the world. The feeling I get when I see a tractor trailer that has been involved in an accident on the side of the highway, or that deep pit i get in my stomach when I hear about a driver who has been killed in an accident. That feeling is something I can't explain, even if R is 1000 miles away and I know it, the moment i see or hear about a Tractor Trailer being involved in a wreck I'm paralyzed with fear. I worry about him constantly. It's just something i've had to learn to live with over the past few months.

8. Texting is Not Always An Option...
This one is self explanatory... he drives for a living, texting and driving is dangerous and illegal... we don't text much.

9. Grocery Shopping For One Is Depressing, But It's Also Great For Your Budget.
The world doesn't make recipes for one... I've actually debated writing a cook book called "Cooking For Lonely Losers" one that is full of recipes for one. Or having babies just so I have someone else to cook for (only half joking here)

10. Even on the Worst Day's He's Still Your Husband, You Still Love Him, and This is Still What's Best For Your Family.
For now i have to remember that this wasn't his choice, that he wants to be home with me, that he still wants to start a family, and that He hasn't abandoned me... thats the hard part, not feeling abandoned. He made this choice with us in mind, our future, those future babies, and our dreams and goals. He chose this job with those things in mind. SO if i think its' hard sacrificing my time with him now I just remember that this isn't forever, and that makes it better.

Monday, January 11, 2016

When It all Gets to Be too Much...

There gets to be a point where it all gets to be too much...

I hit that point in late November, and that's why I haven't been here to see you loves in so long.
It wasn't my intention to leave you behind, but things got so busy and crazy so fast that I thought I might lose my mind if something didn't give.

Sadly that something had to be my sweet blog.

I'll be back later this week with a life update... and I promise regular content will be returning soon!

I've missed you all!

But for now... I guess I'll be going...

Love, Tesla

Oh and Go Tigers... since they made it to the Natty and all!

Wishing the Clemson Tigers the very best of luck tonight from the deepest depths of my Garnet and Black Heart!